The other day driving home from school Beanna told me when she grows up she will have a foster kid (her words). I asked her what made her want a foster child and I have to say her response made me proud. Her reasoning behind wanting to be a foster parent was simple enough..."some kids need a good home and I want to give him or her one." She went on to tell me that one of her friends has a foster sister that the family treats as their own which is important because nobody wants to feel left out just because they're not blood related. I told her I agree completely, that blood isn't always what makes a family but rather the love we have for one another.
B and I talked quite a bit on the foster child subject with her pointing out that it's not a child's fault that they end up with "bad parents" and get taken away because after all they didn't ask to be born. This discussion left me warm and fuzzy. My daughter is wise beyond her years when it comes to certain situations and I am extremely proud of the young lady she is growing to become.
You're probably wondering how a 10 year old could know the difference between a foster child and an adopted child. Well I was in foster care and have always been open about that with her. I have explained to her why I was in foster care and how it impacted my life. I have also told her about how lucky I was to end up with an amazing foster family who encouraged me to pursue my dreams regardless of what they were. I was taught that we make our own future, we can choose to follow the path those before us have or go the other route.
I'm sure this revelation about myself is throwing you off based off my first entry so to clear up the confusion I'll give a quick background. I was raised by my grandfather for a few years in my early years and then my mother, by age 15 I was in foster care and stayed there until a few months past my 18th birthday and finished high school.
Once again these are details of my life I've shared with Beanna and only revealing more as she's gotten older and more curious.
It is because of my past that I'm a huge supporter of anything benefitting foster kids. I encourage you to contribute when you can to charities or businesses which support foster children in your area, whether it be in the form of time or donations. Trust me the little extras foster kids get can make their days.
Til next time I'll leave you with one of my favorite sayings from a business here that supports foster care. "Not everybody can be a foster parent but anybody can help a foster child".
XO - V.G.